Extra distance makes many things unachievable, but everything is not suppose to be easy even though texting, video chatting, and a host of apps make it easy to talk to your boo whenever you want, wherever you are, living far apart is still a challenge a lot of couples can’t overcome. It is the beginning of suspense, intrigues and mind blowing events that might make or mar the relationship.
It is therefore important that the partners intending to embark on a long distance relationship evaluate themselves with the following questions.
1. Are we committed?
Commitment means making something strong and healthy(Michelle Roya Rad). To whom and how much you want to commit are personal choices depending on your personality, your needs, your emotional maturity, your lifestyle and your thinking process. The key is to know yourself and to be honest to yourself and to others with whom you have a relationship with.
When you commit, it helps you become resilient during the down times and disappointments, and it helps you sustain whatever you are committed to, despite tough times while at the same time respecting each other’s freedom and individuality.
2. How often do we communicate?
Openness is the key word here, “you are never too busy for the person you love”, don’t push each other away, because communication is the soul of any relationship. By committing to regular and meaningful communication, try to update your partner on your life and its happenings.
To up the game on social media, send each other pictures, audio clips, and short videos from time to time. By putting in this kind of effort, you make the other person feel loved and attended to, open and connected despite the physical distance.
3.What do we want to achieve at the end of the day?
You don’t need stay in an empty relationship to satisfy your basic needs, “What about the future?” “How long are we going to be apart?” These are the questions you two need to ask yourselves. It takes a disciplined mind to focus on what the heart wants and to walk towards it. The fact is, no couple can be in a long distance relationship forever. Eventually we all need to settle down.
So make plans with each other and draw an end goal.So that even if you both are living million miles apart, both of you are still working together in the same direction towards a future that includes one another.
4. Do we have trust for each other?
Its interesting to know how distance can unmask the partners and resurrect some hidden truths. In this case , you may have feeling that someone you love and trust does not hold the same feelings towards you and may someday abandon you or betray you. The worst decision you can make is choosing to stay when you don’t trust them.
There have been instances where the “so called partner”gets involved in another relationship without speaking up,The worst decision you can make is choosing to stay when you don’t trust them.
5. Are you ready to move on?
The power of every relationship lies on whoever cares less, you need to re-evaluate yourself, Both partners need to give and take, and sometimes one partner may give more or take more. This can cause a problem as you should both be putting an equal amount of effort into the relationship.
If the relationship gets messed up and suddenly gets one sided, are you ready to move on? Will you keep giving it your all, believing one day the other partner will suddenly wake up to reciprocate your feelings? The last thing you want to do is beg for someone to love you. No relationship should be forced, don’t play the blame game. Be happy you gave it your best shot and be grateful it ended that way, and please refuse to be hateful, keep your beautiful heart open, because true and lasting love will always happen.