It seems ladies really love to be lied to despite their many pretences of wanting the total truth.
I am someone who has experienced love only once in all my 37 years of existence… I loved a girl about a decade ago and I still have emotional and physical scars from the heartbreak I suffered.
Since then, even though I respect women, I still steer clear of any kind of emotional attachment. My sanity means so much to me.
I have dated a number of ladies since then, I treated them well but not once have I used the word ‘love’ with any woman.
Marriage is necessary to me, I always knew I would settle down with a woman and have Kids some day… I am ready at 37.
Now, there is this nice lady I have been with for seven months, my longest duration in a relationship since my tragic love story. She is nice, from a good home, the best so far, loves to cook, and I believe she would be a good wife even though I never ever mentioned love to her.
I finally made the move, I proposed to her and she was momentarily startled… she looked at me and I think I saw her guards drop, open devotion and naked love all over her face!
“You love me? ” she asked me with a tiny voice and I couldn’t bring myself to lie to her… I said “No” and she rejected my proposal.
Is love mandatory… I think compatibility should matter.
Should I have lied to her? I’m confused, I’m not sure I’d find a better woman but I’m not sure I’m in love either…
How can I fix this? Do I need a psychologist? Please I need honest advises…