By submitting email you agree to get Bored Panda newsletter. What should couples do when they get overwhelmed with the whole planning process? ._2cHgYGbfV9EZMSThqLt2tx{margin-bottom:16px;border-radius:4px}._3Q7WCNdCi77r0_CKPoDSFY{width:75%;height:24px}._2wgLWvNKnhoJX3DUVT_3F-,._3Q7WCNdCi77r0_CKPoDSFY{background:var(--newCommunityTheme-field);background-size:200%;margin-bottom:16px;border-radius:4px}._2wgLWvNKnhoJX3DUVT_3F-{width:100%;height:46px} Despite hearing those crazy wedding stories where everyones stressed, overworked, and disappointed, everyone knows that in the end, these things dont really matter once the important day comes and all the hard work of planning pays off. I can't talk about my 'lifestyle' because she doesn't want to . Sounds like someone who doesn't plan ahead. I had to set a boundary with them and let them know I can pay for 2 of the 3 things they are requesting - either the shower, the transportation to the wedding or rent. 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Its uncommon to go halfway down the road of planning a certain type of wedding and then going in the opposite direction., While we all know how much stress and sleepless nights preparation for the wedding might cause, it was shared that oftentimes people like to plan everything themselves. AITA for paying for my son's wedding? Who on earth expects the bride and groom to pay for their flights? That may be true if you go to court over it(im not a lawyer, so idk), but if you try to dispute it through your bank, you're gonna be held to the agreement you made, which likely only says that the deposit is non-refundable. There's the spouse, kids, friends, parents. It's the "don't post to FB" episode. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns. See our ~~*Best Of*~~ "Most Controversial" at /r/AITAFiltered! We were curious to find out whether situations like this happen often. If you've ever planned a wedding, you'll know the struggle of having to decide who gets invited, who gets to be a groomsman or a bridesmaid, who is just there for the ceremony and whatnot. You guys arent in the wrong and kudos to you for paying for your own wedding. He doesnt like that we arent invited but hes not turning down a free vacation either., After she invited him and his boys and made all the plans and purchased tickets she told him shed pay for their accommodations but he had to help pay for everything else., He barely makes enough money to cover his own bills and his part of our shared bills (mortgage & utilities). Non refundable deposit, aren't. The planning and arrangements can take their toll on anyone. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: My mother thinks I'm being an asshole because I don't want her to bring one of her friends to my wedding. Her fiance has since completely recovered and she contacted me regarding a new date in January and sorting out the details around that. The extra guests cost would be 1 month's salary for her. Hey Pandas, What Was Your Popular Moment? It is actually just normal to pay for your own wedding costs. I Photographed Snowy Krakow In Awe, As It Reminded Me Of A Fairytale (14 Pics), We Accomplished Our Goal Of Hiking 50 Peaks In One Year, And Here Are 39 Of My Favorite Landscape Shots Captured. This is a huge red flag and your fiance is not making a good decision here.~Top-Ad-2676, This is spot on. If you really want her there, then pay, otherwise she can stay at home. @keyframes ibDwUVR1CAykturOgqOS5{0%{transform:rotate(0deg)}to{transform:rotate(1turn)}}._3LwT7hgGcSjmJ7ng7drAuq{--sizePx:0;font-size:4px;position:relative;text-indent:-9999em;border-radius:50%;border:4px solid var(--newCommunityTheme-bodyTextAlpha20);border-left-color:var(--newCommunityTheme-body);transform:translateZ(0);animation:ibDwUVR1CAykturOgqOS5 1.1s linear infinite}._3LwT7hgGcSjmJ7ng7drAuq,._3LwT7hgGcSjmJ7ng7drAuq:after{width:var(--sizePx);height:var(--sizePx)}._3LwT7hgGcSjmJ7ng7drAuq:after{border-radius:50%}._3LwT7hgGcSjmJ7ng7drAuq._2qr28EeyPvBWAsPKl-KuWN{margin:0 auto} After letting her know of the above and that she'd have to cover entirely the extra guests cost, she got mad and wants to cancel the wedding altogether and just register our marriage at the Register Office without any ceremony (which I strongly disagree with). But they are not assholes if they won't come as a result. Half are now flying to the place we are getting married, and paying for their own plane tickets. There is one topic that I see mentioned a lot, that being the 67/33 part. It doesn't appear in any feeds, and anyone with a direct link to it will see a message like this one. Something people would spend $40K on and walk away with no regret, just beautiful memories. NTA. Konstancija is a Content Creator at Bored Panda. Click Here For Our Rules and Click Here For Our FAQ. Please view our voting guide here, and remember to use only one judgement in your comment. Image credits: Ryan Polei (not the actual image). Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. I am 20 years old. Everyone wins! Therefore, she and her fianc requested that each guest gift them $1,500 in cash to pay off their wedding. DesignerMedium9046 51 10m. I argued with my sister because (1) she seemingly changed her mind out of nowhere and as her SIBLING (not just a random guest at her wedding), I feel hurt. I don't think it has to be said but to be clear I completely understand that this was unforseen and a very stressful time for the both of them. Or allow/support others doing the same. Please view our voting guide here, and remember to use only one judgement in your comment. It is also normal for guests to pay their travel and accommodation costs! She's very disappointed and things have been icy because they would have to put off getting a house together if they were to pay for the wedding and they still wouldn't be able to afford the wedding that they want. (And it goes both ways, if you move across the country you can't really expect people to show up for everything, and you can't be upset when you don't get crowds for your wedding). We are doing a small wedding and only inviting 20 guests. Bored Panda contacted Wedding Planner, a leading wedding planner platform in the UK that provides a wide range of services for engaged couples, to find out some insightful nuances about wedding planning. "AITA for uninviting my family from my wedding because they want me to share it with my sister?" The OP is currently trying to plan her wedding around the pandemic. After many years working in the service industry, in many different States, there is one thing a lot of people don't realize. The Bored Panda iOS app is live! Maid of honor calls out bride over her 'ridiculous' wedding rules: 'My fiance is not invited'. Unsure of what OP should do, they reached out to Reddit for wisdom. My sister-in-law, who lives on the other side of the country, is upset that we won't pay for her ticket and is now refusing to come to the wedding. Check your inbox, and click on the link to activate your account. Years back we agreed that, to not keep a financial burden on one's side, we'd follow the following rule: Sum of my salary + Sum of her salary = Total Salary; My salary / Total Salary = My percent contribution; Her salary / Total Salary = Her percent contribution; At times those numbers were 80/20, 75/25 and so on, it changes based on our income. By rejecting non-essential cookies, Reddit may still use certain cookies to ensure the proper functionality of our platform. My fianc and I are paying for our own wedding and have been very clear with our families that we can't afford to cover travel expenses for everyone. The father revealed that their family had an agreement that the parents would give their children each $10K to be spent on the wedding or a down payment on their first home. literally whenever I would start talking both of them would start scrolling on their phones., Im not even kidding. Of course, when we go out and have romantic dinners (about once a week) I cover the cost, and we usually give each other gifts every month or so, but those are extras. Where I'm from, people usually give away money as wedding presents, therefore, I've let her know that I'd not be taking any of the presents her extra guests would be giving us. Specifically, the wedding date is set for Halloween because OP herself (as well as her partner, a 30-year-old . 2 Reply DisgruntledPelican54 43 min. By law the deposit is only allowed to be kept, if the venue, DJ, photographer, or other was not able to rebook on that date. Some users also suggested some ways out of how they could still save the paid money, but according to OP, that $5K is already a lost cause. The man caused a scene and asked the woman whether she said anything that led him to do this. Others were more concerned about the future. and our While the older siblings decided to use this money for their future home, the third daughter wanted this sum to be used for the wedding celebration. My fianc used to live in another country, and so our guests are divided. 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Reddit and its partners use cookies and similar technologies to provide you with a better experience. I always say have your wedding wherever you want, but dont expect everyone to travel far to attend. This is true You have to demand the deposit back from whom you payed it to. Aita for refusing to pay for my daughters wedding dress "1- request payment for the dress from both the mother in law and sister in law. You really do love to see it. Her interests also include photography, literature and hiking. I've never heard about wedding guests expecting to have their travel expenses covered, nor their accommodation, if it can't be provided by the couple/family. A catharsis for the frustrated moral philosopher in all of us, and a place to finally find out if you were wrong in an argument that's been bothering you. 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